We cannot force those we want to forgive into accepting our forgiveness. They might not be able or willing to do so. They may not even know or feel that they have wounded us. We can only change ourselves. Forgiving others is first and foremost healing our own hearts.
When our wounds cease to be a source of shame and become a source of healing, we have become wounded healers. . . . Our own experience with loneliness, depression, and fear can become a gift. . . . Our own bandaged wounds will allow us to listen to others with our whole beings.