Unlike women in other countries, our breaking silence is unlikely to have us jailed, "disappeared," or run off the road at night. Our speaking out will irritate some people, get us called bitchy or hypersensitive, and disrupt some dinner parties. And then our speaking out will permit other women to speak, until laws are changed and lives are saved and the world is altered forever.
We need to take a leap of the imagination and envision nations as the best kinds of families: the democratic ones we are
trying to create in our own lives. A hierarchical family must
be changed anyway if we are to stop producing leaders whose
unexamined early lives are then played out on a national and
international stage. . . . Changing the way we raise children is the only long-term path to peace or arms control, and neither
has ever been more crucial. As the feminist adage says, "The
personal is political.
The Bad Boy. This one will probably steal your heart in your early 20's, in those years when you're trying to figure out who you are and who you want to be, and discovering your wings seems to come with a side of rebellion. You'll think you can change him, but you can't. (And secretly, you won't want to, because if you did, he'd no longer be the boy who stole your heart.) He'll make you cry as much or more as he makes you laugh. Underneath it all, you suspect he has a heart of gold…and he probably does…but it will take years and many women after you to uncover it. Here's the thing about bad boys: In the end, they always walk away. But they don't leave you empty-handed. In their wake will be a girl who now knows what she wants out of love and what she won't ever again stand for. And she's finally learned how to say "Thanks, but no thanks" to anyone who doesn't meet that standard.