Quotations from

Julie A., M.A. Ross and Judy Corcoran

Quotes from Julie A., M.A. Ross and Judy Corcoran

When we make assumptions, we contribute to the complexity rather than the simplicity of a problem, making it more difficult to solve.

—Julie A., M.A. Ross and Judy Corcoran

Ruminating about the past is like trying to drive backward to undo a car accident.

—Julie A., M.A. Ross and Judy Corcoran

Guilt is helpful only when it keeps us acting in line with our beliefs and morals. Otherwise, it creates needless suffering.

—Julie A., M.A. Ross and Judy Corcoran

Any time and energy you spend hating and being angry at your ex will ultimately take a toll on you without effecting any positive changes in your ex or your relationship.

—Julie A., M.A. Ross and Judy Corcoran

The point is that no matter what your feelings are, your children will be better off if you make them your central focus and work diligently at keeping the parenting relationship civil and cooperative.

—Julie A., M.A. Ross and Judy Corcoran

When you understand that your feelings are triggered by what you think about an event and not by the event itself, you gain a measure of control. Although you cannot control the things (events) that happen to you, or change your feelings (after all, you feel the way you feel), you can change your thoughts. A change in thoughts often radically alters your feelings.

—Julie A., M.A. Ross and Judy Corcoran

Allowing children to fight their own battles is one of the hardest parenting skills to learn.

—Julie A., M.A. Ross and Judy Corcoran

Children will adapt to nearly any rule or routine as long as it is consistently enforced within that particular household.

—Julie A., M.A. Ross and Judy Corcoran

When you own or take responsibility for your feelings, you place yourself in a position of power and control.

—Julie A., M.A. Ross and Judy Corcoran