You always have two choices: your commitment versus your fear.
If I get married, I want to be very married.
I know you'll leave. I don't have any grand illusions.
Love means to commit yourself without guarantee.
Monetary donations to a spiritual cause, contributions of physical labor, involvement with a particular guru, none of these necessarily mean that we have actually committed ourselves to openness. More likely these kinds of commitments are simply ways of proving that we have joined the side of "right.